College is a magical time where opportunities to try new things, explore the world, and gain life experiences are all around you all the time. Most of those opportunities are fantastic, and they’ll help you grow into a better person. However, some of the opportunities presented to you won’t be so grand, and they could lead to your downfall. One way to help you pass on the wrong prospects and head for the right opportunities is to decide what you will and won’t do before you ever get there. Here’s how.
Who Are You?
Before you ever get to a college campus, think about who you are and who you want to be. Write down your hopes, goals, and aspirations. Then, write about the kind of person you would like to be in the future. How do you want people to see you? How do you want to see yourself?
Take some time to do some soul-searching. Then, make a choice to stick with yourself.
When you go to college, you get offered a lot of things. Everything from free ice cream samples to illegal narcotics float around the dorms, the student union, and the classrooms. Then, you have offers to help you cheat or a request to help others plagiarize. You might get propositioned for sexual favors and nude photos. Pornographers often recruit at college campuses promising fortune, as do sugar daddies/mamas, pimps, and more.
When you lay it all out on the line like that, it sounds like there are creepy dudes in trench coats on every corner. It’s more subtle than that. Someone might offer you a pill to help you study. Someone else may start complimenting your body and then ask to photograph you nude for a sizable amount of money. It’s usually not an obvious thing. It can catch you off guard.
After you’ve written down your goals and a description of who you want to be, consider the possibilities of things offered on a college campus. Decide right now which of those offers will help you be the person you want to be, and which ones could stop you.
On a sheet of paper make two columns. Title the first column “I will…” and the second “I will not…” Under each title list of things you want to do and things, you won’t do. When you’re finished, keep that paper as a reminder.
If you choose before it’s presented, it’s much easier to resist things that would harm you and accept things that would help you.
You are spectacular. You deserve to make the best choices for yourself. So, make them early and you won’t have an internal debate about it later. It simplifies your life and it makes it easier to resist peer pressure later on.