We’ve all seen the iconic portrayals of wild parties, best friends, and crazy antics on the Greek Rows of college campuses across the United States. It may all look like wild fun and games, but rushing is an actual commitment that can either be a huge benefit to your life, or it can be your ultimate downfall. But, how do you know if a rushing is right for you? Here are the Pros and Cons of joining fraternities and sororities.
What Is It?
According to Ball State University, a fraternity or sorority is a group of men and women gathered in brotherhood/sisterhood around a common goal, or aspiration. Together, they work to build each other up toward that goal and make memories and share experiences that bind them for life.
There is more to the college experience than attending classes and making the grade. However, your education is your top priority. Take a hard look at your schedule, and talk to different sororities/fraternities to see what kind of time commitments they require. You might find one that is perfect even for your busy schedule. Or, you might just want to hold off for the next rush season.
Different fraternities/sororities have different goals, mission statements, and values. Some of them are dedicated to service, some are devoted to specific causes, and some might say they’re all about world betterment but, are more about boozy parties in reality. Before you rush, make sure that the sorority/fraternity aligns with your personal goals, values, and standards.
Most fraternities and sororities have a “rush” ritual. Rushing can take up to several days spent with the fraternity/sorority to see if you’ve “made the cut.” A lot of times, the rushing ritual is just a fun way to see if you’re committed to the group and if you’ll get along.
However, anything that causes you pain, humiliation, or is abusive in any way should not be tolerated. If you’re rushing and they want you to do something harmful to someone else or allow something harmful to be done to you, defend yourself, get away, and call campus police. Hazing is never ok.
Sororities/Fraternities cost money. Some charge an initial fee and then require dues on a regularly set period. Dues can increase if you choose to live in the dedicated frat/sorority house on campus, or if you want to join in your group’s politics. Go over your finances to make sure that rushing won’t put you in the poor house.
One major upside to rushing is that you will regularly interact with a tight-knit group of friends. You will join something bigger than yourself, and the right fraternity/sorority can provide you with a support system. Also, frats and sororities often mingle on campus which will broaden your circle of friends very quickly. If you’re a highly social person, rushing might just be the perfect opportunity to make new friends.
Rushing is a personal choice. For some people, rushing is the best thing that ever happened to them. For other people, rushing is not worth the time, money, or effort. If you don’t like socializing, or you feel like you’re already stretched too thin, then maybe rushing is not for you. However, if you like socializing and you feel like you’ve got the time, then rushing might be the best choice.